Top 10 Ways to Lead by Example

November 10, 2011

Good leaders must lead by example. Through their actions, which are aligned with what they say, they become a person others want to follow. When leaders say one thing but do another, they erode trust, a critical element of productive leadership. Here are 10 of the dozens of ways to lead by example.

1. Take responsibility.  Blame costs you your credibility, keeps team members on the defensive and ultimately sabotages real growth.

2. Be truthful.  Inaccurate representation affects everyone. Show that honesty really IS the best policy.

3. Be courageous.  Walk through fire (a crisis) first. Take calculated risks that demonstrate commitment to a larger purpose.

4. Acknowledge failure.  It makes it OK for your team to do the same and defines failure as part of the process of becoming extraordinary.

5. Be persistent.  Try, try again. Go over, under or around any hurdles to show that obstacles don’t define your company or team.

6. Create solutions.  Don’t dwell on problems; instead be the first to offer solutions and then ask your team for more.

7. Listen.  Ask questions. Seek to understand. You’ll receive valuable insights and set a tone that encourages healthy dialogue.

8. Delegate liberally.  Encourage an atmosphere in which people can focus on their core strengths.

9. Take care of yourself.  Exercise, don’t overwork, take a break. A balanced team, mentally and physically, is a successful team. Model it, encourage it, support it! 

10. Roll up your sleeves.  Like Alexander the Great leading his men into battle, you’ll inspire greatness in your company.

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

 But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

 •  Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.

 •  Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.

 •  Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.

 •  Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.

 •  When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.

 •  Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, and express thanks for gratitude.

As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

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